The hard lessons on LOVE and MEN

1. A man won’t let go if he really loves you.

Do not hold on to someone who has let go of you. He does not love you and does not value having you. Believe me, he will not let go if he really loves you. There is another reason he is not willing to tell.

2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship.

There is only one reason why he ended your relationship. He just does not love you. Do not waste your time thinking of reasons or what you should have done. Move on and be open to a man who will truly love you.

3. Do not get hang up on your past.
Do not nag or distrust your current boyfriend just because your ex hurt you. Do not treat him or the relationship the same way. Do not compare. He will not react the same way as your ex. Do not be worried that your simple mistakes will cause him to look for another girl. What happened with your ex was not your fault. It was not because you didn’t guard him enough or you didn’t make him happy enough.
4. Do not look into images.

How many times have you met a girl who didn’t have the best image in school or at the office, but you get to know the girl and found out she was actually extremely nice? Do not rely on images. Oftentimes, it is far from reality. Do not fear men just because your “supposedly” perfect ex-boyfriend mistreated you.

5. Always have your own set of rules.

Set your limits on how far you’d go for a guy. It’s perfectly ok to give and do everything as long as it’s worth it. And it’s worth it if the guy is treating you right.

6. Do not be scared to lose him.

Don’t be scared that he’ll break up with you. Once you are afraid of losing him, you easily can be taken advantage. Be strong and if something is unacceptable, do not accept it and speak up.
7. Avoid calling your guy.

It’s a guy thing. The relationship will definitely be better if it’s the guy who’s calling, not the girl. He will get tired of you if you keep on calling. He will lose interest and challenge. More so, he will get annoyed. But it’s a girl thing also that your fingers get too itchy until you dial his number. But avoid as much as possible. Call only if really needed (like checking if your suspicions are reasonable).

8. There is a guy who will value you.

There is a guy out there who can make you feel valued, appreciated, and loved. And I mean, not just during your first few weeks together. So don’t lose hope. Don’t settle for a lesbian if you are not attracted to women. There is a man out there who can love you like a girl can.
Also, do not believe him when he says it’s just the way he really is. He’s not the sweet or expressive-type. Remember during your first few weeks together? Where has that sweet guy gone? He simply is not that into you anymore.

9. Always be the only one, no matter what.

Do not ever fall for a guy who has another girl, be it his wife, girlfriend, or any girl that he says he just can’t get rid of for whatever reason. If you truly believe that he loves you and for some reason, he can’t leave or let go of another girl, then you are no different from any ordinary mistress.

10. He must respect you.

No matter how long the relationship has been, he should always show respect towards you.

11. If he fooled you, end it.

Philandering once is enough. You can never trust nor respect the person again.

12. Never start a relationship the wrong way.

Do not steal another girl’s man, for whatever reason. Nor should you enter a relationship for the wrong reasons (loneliness, on the rebound, getting back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.) it is bound not to last. You will only end up wasting more years of your life.

13. Do not force yourself into a relationship.

Do not get into a relationship just because your friends are getting impatient with your dating escapades and the one hasn’t come yet. Do not choose who to say yes to based on superficial things like money, looks, cars, etc.. If you are even thinking of these things, you have not fallen in love yet.

14. Do not settle.

If you are not happy anymore with your relationship, break up instantly. He will not stay with you forever no matter how upright he might seem to be. Eventually, he will also want love and happiness in his life.

15. A relationship has to have love.

Love is the only thing that will push you to give your efforts into making the relationship work. And believe me, keeping a relationship requires genuine efforts of both parties.

16. Don’t be afraid to be single.

It’s fun to be single, try it. You can go out whenever and wherever you want. You are free. You can date whomever you want and you get to go out for free! Do not get a boyfriend just for the sake of having one. Do not settle.

17. Be a good girl.

Be a good girl to attract a good guy. Enter the relationship with sincere intentions. Take the guy and the relationship seriously with the plan of spending the rest of your life with that person (of course, this is after you had your bit of fun in your younger years). If you compare your flings from your real relationships, you will know that the latter makes you happier and more fulfilled.
18. Love without limits.

Whether you loved and gave everything or loved but held out for some things, if the relationship ends, you still get hurt. But if you gave your everything, you were happy and you could say that it was worth it. If you didn’t give your all, you get hurt for nothing.

19. You will get over him.

Love is over-stated. Love eventually ends and you are free to love another.

20. Be the one.

Act like you are the one. Don’t be a nagger. Don’t hinder his gimmicks. Don’t give in to him too easily. Make him treat you as important. Don’t be easy. Don’t be like every other girl he had in his life.

Live Blogging from my window..

Last month, I asked my wishmaster to grant me my wish number 1. It was so long that I thought I have to embrace my previous work and be content with it. "I am now granting your wish. Tomorrow, you'll have a new environment." That's what he said in my dreams. And it came true.

I received a call that woke me up early in the morning telling me to come and see my new office. Of course I was so exited because I dreamt of it. For the past few months I've been wanting this opportunity, this was the only time. I am very thankful for all the blessings I have received since I decided to settle here in manila again for good. I was very hesitant at first because I knew manila life. The people's way of living, and the expectations.

I can't say all of my dreams came true at this time. Atleast they provided me with things that would make me comfortable enough while working. A furnished unit with a super duper awesome view of the different towers in ortigas, and a walking distance place to hang out if I want to unwind or get drunk or maybe just a little.

For now, I have to leave it all on my abilities for my work to like me. I'm lovin it in every minute of my life. :]

Oh, and for the record, I KNOW HOW TO WASH MY CLOTHES NOW. Atleast in a washing machine. Yay me!!

The Meantime Girl

She’s the one you call when you’re bored because she makes you laugh. She’s the one you talk to when you’re feeling down because she’s willing to lend an ear and be a friend. She’s not the one you call when you need a date to your company’s Christmas party, or to go dancing with on a Saturday night. She’s the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you find "The One". You know, the one who you keep around in the meantime.

She’s not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don’t look at her as a "real" woman, either. She’s not bitchy enough, moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in that light. She’s too laid-back, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She’s too understanding, too comfortable – she doesn't make you feel nervous or excited the way a "real" woman does. But she’s cool, and nice, and funny, and attractive enough that when you’re lonely and need female companionship, she’ll do just fine. You don’t have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you already, and you don’t have any facades to keep up, no pretenses to preserve. You’re not trying to get anything of substance out of her. She’s not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is attracted to you, and that she’ll give you what you need. And you know you don’t have to explain yourself or the situation, that she’ll be able to cope with the fact that this isn’t the beginning of a relationship or that there’s any possibility that you have any real romantic feelings for her. It won’t bother her that you’ll get up in the morning, say goodbye, and go on a date with the woman you’ve been mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you. She’ll settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell her how the date went. She’s just so cool . . . why can’t all women be like that?!

But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don’t because to you, the situation between the two of you isn’t important enough to merit any real thought), you know that it’s really not fair. You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don’t think she’s good enough to spend any real time with. Sure, it’s mostly her fault, because she doesn’t have to give in to your needs – she could play the hard-to-get bitch like the rest of them do, if she really wanted to. But you know that she probably couldn’t pull it off. Maybe she’s too short, or a little overweight, or has a big birthmark on her forehead, or works at Taco Bell. Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman. So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secret lover, and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman.

She doesn’t captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her smile. Mainly she blends in with the crowd. She’s safe. She doesn’t want to be the center of attention and turn the heads of everyone in the room. But she wants to turn someone’s head. She wants to be special to someone, too. We all do. She has feelings. She has a heart. In fact, she probably has a bigger and better heart than any woman you’ve ever known because she’s had a front-row seat to The Mess That Is Your Life, and she likes you anyway. She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you’ve given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she is.

Love Letters...

I'd like to express sincere gratitude to the big bosses up our company. Thank you dude!

From: Bill [billaq1@******.com]
Date: May 14, 2007
Subject: Weekly Report


Dear Jazmine,

Thank you for your report.

Keep up the good work.

1) Learn to do the leads with michelle

2) Very important to follow up the work jr & Mr. Anderson want you to do on
cleaning up the bad press for some of the companies.

Thank you.



From: Mr. Anderson [carlton_janderson@******.com]
Date: May 18, 2007
Subject: Second Week Report


Hi Jazmine

Thank you for the update. Can you let me know who is responsible for sending out the press releases for Carlton hedges as this the website which we need to upload good press for the most. I have seen that you have done an excellent job with Jacobs & Burns already.

Well Done

Mr Anderson


Even though the accounting department is quite weird when it comes to payday, I still heart all of my boss. You rock!

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Welcome to the blog world Mik

I need a pill...

It's already four fucking twenty in the morning and I am still wide awake. I'm here at the office sitting infront of my computer running deadlines for the pr's to be released later. Of course my system's still wiped because of my birthday. It's kind of hard to cleanse and get back to your regular circulation from a two day nonstop downing of fifteen bottles of brandy. Even though I feel that my body wants to throw my liver out, I am happy that I was able to submit my deadlines for this day. Seven dreadful deadlines from this, this, this, this, this, this and this. I hope my boss will be satisfied with that.

And the sugar here in the office tastes weird.

...

I talked to my mother earlier this day and found out one of the most saddest news I will consider in my life - my grandfather is sick. He needs serious medication because his lungs and his liver has fluids to be taken out immediately. She told me that she had already informed her siblings about the matter and still waiting for their actions. I hope they will have asap solutions with that. I am not ready to lose a part of my life. I am not ready to lose the person I considered as my father. It will be a very hard acceptance for me.

Please pray for my grandpa.

MAY 16, 1985

They thought I was a boy. But I wasn't. I was even greater than a boy. My mother is not healthy. So my doctors decided to take the nine pound baby girl out of her mother's womb surgically at exactly nine fifty in the evening. I brought smile to my grandparents because I was the first grandchild of the family, even though I was not expected and out of the plan. I am my mom's biggest sacrifice to be considered. She was about to finish college as an educator but I came. There were no mistakes done. I was a blessing. I was a gift.

I started eating rice when I was six months old.

I started walking when I was eight months old.

I started talking when I was one.

I started going to school when I was four.

I started doing things earlier at my age.

I transferred schools six times.

I was bullied by my classmates when I was twelve.

I got my period when I was fourteen.

I was almost kicked out of my school when I was sixteen

I almost died when I was eighteen.

I stopped smoking when I was twenty one.

And now, I am already twenty two years old. I thank everyone who made me cry, smile, laugh, eat, sleep, inspire, and all the things that I've done in the past twenty one years.

My 22nd birthday started with a bunch of greetings from my family, friends, relatives and people whom I haven't seen in ages. Turned out that I'm still remembered even though my presence is not clearly felt in times. Thanks guys. :]

THIS GIRL WILL BE CELEBRATING HER 22 YEARS OF EXISTENCE HERE ON EARTH TOMORROW.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!! :]

MOTHER

"M" is for the million things she gave me
"O" means only that she's growing old
"T" is for the tears she shed to save me
"H" is for her heart of purest gold
"E" is for her eyes with love-light shining
"R" means right and right she'll always be


"M" is for the mercy she possesses
"O" means that I owe her all I own
"T" is for her tender, sweet caresses
"H" is for her hands that made a home
"E" means evErything she's done to help me
"R" means real and regular, you see



BELATED HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY.

5.14.07

WHAT MAKES A MAN A MAN?
IT IS NOT BY HIS ORIGINS,OR HOW WE CAME TO LIFE.IT'S THE CHOICE HE MAKES,IT'S NOT HOW HE STARTS THINGS.BUT THE WAY HE DECIDES TO END IT. :]

MY RESSURECTION

I've been a dead blogger for twenty eight days. I thought I would never ever see this picture again.
Luckily, the table turned so fast that I didn't notice that I was starting to breathe again.

This will be a simple post. :]

I left for manila last month to butt into a new world. And I did. I managed to sell myself [not literally] to the company and was entrusted the power to manipulate keys and accounts of credit card holders. Damn I thought it was an easy job, I never expected that I will be fighting against enormous pimples, monster eyebags and raging stress, numb fingers, killer hotline telephones and a premenopausal supervisor. I tried to think of strategies and techniques and luckily I survived the challenge and now I can assure myself that I can still smile despite of all the things happened before.At least I am earning now. The field of my work is quite different from the one I had two years ago, but I am glad that I am learning much more. I'd like to tell more of what I do but I can't because I have no intentions of emphasizing more of what I do there. Hehehe

My most hated person went back here in manila from Singapore just to mess and destroy my whole family. Sadly for you fucker, you didn't won. :] You cannot break what God built.

I have lots of stories to tell you. My boyfriend's birthday, my second job, conversations with dude and an unexpected one night bonding with my mother. But not for now because my head is already swirling from a 16 hour work and I need to close my eyes for a while and get ready for tomorrow.